General Parenting: Stop the Report Card Reflex

At one time or another, most parents have to deal with a not-so-stellar report card. When this happens, try not to punish or yell at your child. Instead, stay positive and figure out how you and your child can work together to make things better.

• Sit down with your child and look over the report card.
• Praise your child. Find at least one good thing: good attendance or no tardiness.
• Be calm! Let your child tell you about his or her poor grades.
• Ask how you can help your child do better.
• Ask what your child can do to make better grades. Make a plan with your child and his or her teacher to do better.

Your disappointments and frustrations can become a handicap for your child. Get involved in your child's academic life, explain why it's important to get better grades, and offer praise when your child does well.

If you are struggling with the demands of parenting, the Prevention Information Resource Center and Parent Helpline is available throughout New York State, 24 hours a day, in English and Spanish, at 1-800-342-7472. Someone will listen to your concerns and give you information about programs and services that support parents and children.

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